Lesbian and Gay Parenting Questions & Answers Column With Arlene Istar LevDear Ari

A column by Arlene (Ari) Istar Lev

The Adoption of Chinese Children

| September 23, 2010

Only a few years ago I would have been surprised to see the face of my family in American advertising.  Images of two women touching—that might portray friendship but looks an awful lot like lesbians—are being used to sell cars and life insurance. Subaru markets directly to lesbian families saying, “It’s not a choice. It’s […]

Adult Child and Homophobia

| September 20, 2010

Dear Ari: I read your comments on your website, and wanted to ask a question. My partner has an 18 year old son, and I have a 15 year old son. My partner’s 18 year old was inducted today into the National Honor Society at his college, and refused to let his mother attend…in his […]

Angry Teen

| September 19, 2010

Dear Ari: I am a single mother of 2 teenage boys, 12 and 16. I have been in same-sex relationships off and on for almost 10 years now. I am in a new relationship that is very open and my son is not handling it well. He has become withdrawn, agitated, aggressive, verbally and physically […]

Coming Out to My Daughter

| September 18, 2010

Dear Ari: I am so glad to be able to write to you.  I have a 14 year-old daughter, to whom devoted all my time and energy (her father passed away.) A year ago, I met and began a relationship (my first) with a wonderful woman whom I adore. My daughter has met her casually. […]

Coming Out Trans

| September 17, 2010

Dear Ari: My best friend just emailed me that he is transgendered and would like to begin living as a woman publicly. How can I support my friend when I’m so confused about how he kept this secret from me for so long? —Surprised Dear Surprised: Well, if you understand how scared she was to […]

Cross-Dressing Disclosure

| September 16, 2010

Dear Ari: As the wife of a cross dresser I am concerned about what to tell the children, when, how, at what age.  This is not about people who transitioning, but rather about cross dressers who want to do the right thing for their kids. At the same time, they do not want the cross […]

Daughter Heartbreaker

| September 15, 2010

Dear Ari: I am a single lesbian with no children of my own. I just recently ended a relationship with the love of my life. It was not our choice to end it; it was her daughter’s who is now 10. At the start of our relationship she was 8. We as a couple decided […]

Donor Dad

| September 14, 2010

Dear Ari: This question might be a little different from the norm, but I will ask anyway. I am a straight man and my lesbian friend has just asked me to consider starting a family with her. This comes out of a lot of different things; we dated in college (before she was completely comfortable […]

End of an Era

| September 13, 2010

After four years of publishing, the magazine Proud Parenting, formerly known as Alternative Family Magazine (AFM/PP), has officially ceased publication. Kelly Taylor, founder, owner, editor, publisher, designer, web content manager—and I am sure garbage collector, accountant, and computer technician—valiantly tried to save the magazine in the past year, seeking investment capital to cover printing and […]

Fear of Homophobic Harassment

| September 12, 2010

Dear Ari: I’m a 28 year-old female who is considering parenthood. One of my biggest concerns about becoming a gay parent is that my child may be subjected to harassment due to my sexual orientation. I’ve done some reading on the subject, and countless studies have shown that children of gay parents are just as […]